When you notice these signs, name the emotion: "I am feeling angry right now." Simply labeling the feeling can take some of its power away. 2. Use the "90-Second Rule"
Anger rarely strikes without warning. Your body usually knows you’re mad before your brain does. Common physical signs include: A racing heart. Clenching your fists or teeth. A sudden feeling of being hot. Shallow, fast breathing. subtitle Anger Management
Neuroscientist Jill Bolte Taylor suggests that the chemical surge of an emotion lasts about 90 seconds. If you’re still angry after that, it’s often because you’re "looping" the thoughts that triggered it. When you notice these signs, name the emotion:
We’ve all been there. Maybe it’s the driver who cut you off, the condescending email from a colleague, or a sink full of dishes when you’re exhausted. You feel that heat rise in your chest, your jaw tightens, and before you know it, you’ve said something you regret. Your body usually knows you’re mad before your brain does
If you feel like your "inner thermostat" is broken, here is how to start regaining control. 1. Recognize the "Body Signals"
Once you’re calm, focus on the solution rather than the person who upset you. The Bottom Line
The way we talk to ourselves determines how mad we get. If you tell yourself, "They did that on purpose just to annoy me!" your anger will skyrocket.